Friday, May 30, 2008
Marriage counseling
Recently my wife and I started going to marriage counseling. We have only been married for about 2 years, but we got married at 19 and with me starting school and her having to work, we are both kind of living in our own separate universes. It is probably then not necessary to tell you that when we had a pregnancy scare last month, it really threw both of us. We knew we had been struggling to keep things going, but then to have that happen I think hit us both with a little dose of reality. We need to work out our issues, the biggest of which is probably the fact that we are both so young. My wife tend to get jealous of me being in school since that is part of my life that is just mine, and she is not really involved in.
Sometimes, I think that perhaps we should not have gotten married so young, but we really do love each other. We wanted to be together while I was going through school and this was the best way. We do try doing things together and do spend the evenings walking our dog or going up to the corner for ice cream. We do enjoy spending time together, but it seems like a whole bunch of little things are adding up to big marriage problems. It is really hard to find peers to get marriage help from, as most of the people our age are not married. They really do not understand how difficult it can be to be a student / husband. Having to stay after school to work in the science lab or to spend extra time in the evenings studying with a buddy are all things that raise my wife's suspicions about where I am and who I am with. Don't get me wrong, on the surface she is very supportive of me and the work I need to do to get through school, but I can see the doubt in her eyes when I tell her of these things, or when I come in the door in the evening.
I really hope that marriage counseling will help us. I know we are soul mates, but I really wish I could have met her after I had finished my schooling and was in my chosen field. It would have been much easier on both of us. i just want to save my marriage.
Posted by Rick at 1:35 PM